How Not to Make a New Years Resolution

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Hey friends! It's Ashton here, writing for the last time in 2014. It's New Year's Eve and 2015 starts tomorrow! It's a clean slate, a free second chance, and a story awaiting its publishing date. 

 In case you missed it, a few days ago I wrote about the things you should keep in mind when you're making your New Years resolution. Click here to check it out.

However, today I'm going to write about what you should not think about when making your resolution. The thing a lot of people miss when making their resolution is that it shouldn't be about making yourself better, but about bettering yourself.

Here are the things I avoid thinking about when making my resolution.


I promise, you don't need to do that. That's not your job. Don't try to make yourself better. Don't take it into your own hands to fix the things that you think are wrong with you! By asking the Lord to make you look like Jesus or what will help you grow, He will do those things. Most likely, the things that YOU think are wrong with you, aren't actually a thing. We are our worst critics. Remember that. 

Pray as you're making your resolution and ask the Lord to show you what you need to change. Please, friends, don't think you have to fix yourself! 

don't dream too big.

I love dreams and I love dreaming big. I love setting goals for myself and I hope you do too! Dreams and goals are so good and almost needed at this stage in life. However, we have to be realistic. Let's talk about the difference in dreaming big and dreaming too big.

Dreaming big is setting the bar high. It's telling yourself that you're going to climb to the top of the tree. For me, dreaming big is saying that I'm going to write a book. It's setting a goal, verbalizing something I want, and going for it. It's working hard and doing my best, letting the possibility of it happening fuel my writing, my decisions, and my time. Dreaming big is going after something that's harder than tying my shoes.

Dreaming too big is risky and potentially hurtful. It's saying you're not only going to climb to the top of the tree, but that you're going to jump once you get there and hope that you land okay. Dreaming too big for me would be saying that I'm going to finish my book by the time I'm 21 (that's in eleven months). It would cause my writing to be sloppy and my time to be forced into a book-sized box that would rob me of my joy. Dreaming too big can easily lead to disappointment. Dreaming too big is opening the door to failure and welcoming her in with closed arms.

Give yourself grace.

You're gonna mess up. You're gonna eat unhealthy food before January 7th. You're gonna  sleep too late and forget to go to the gym. You'll get caught up in school and you won't read your Bible one day. You're going to forget to text them back. You will fail, because you are a human. You cannot let that stop you, though.

As you're making your resolution, remember that! Self-grace is one of those things that come along with dreaming big and being our worst critics. YOU NEED IT! Remember that you'll fail, but mostly remember that it is okay! It is okay to eat a donut! It is okay to skip the gym for a day and I promise the passage of your Bible that you were supposed to read today will be there tomorrow! Colossians 3:3 tells us that we need to give others the grace that God has shown us, and that includes yourself! Don't be too hard on yourself, amigo. Show yourself grace daily.

The clock is ticking, y'all! 2015 is arriving so soon. I hope and pray that your night is spent with people you love, with a full heart and good music. This new year is a time to write new stories and experience things you never thought you would. It's gonna be a good one. Make a resolution that will help you, not hurt you.

Grow, pray, and laugh a lot this year. See y'all in January.

lover of sticky notes, sparklers, and Chick-fil-a

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